""she really understood the lonliness and isolation he endured over his secret life as a serial killer"

I think your misguided. That's how good Lila was. As a result of Harry's upbringing I don't think that Dexter is suffering. He dont think he feels lonely. He's fully aware of his condition and has no desire to share it with anyone else. He is content with satisfying his urges through a bit of social clensing. Lila on the other hand was a lonely tortured soul. There was simply no hope for her and we can both agree that she was uncomfortable to watch.

Simply put into laymans terms I think it went down like this:

Lila: I understand you pain and isolation, Dexter, because I suffer the same way. We are soulmates.
Dexter: *****, your crazy. Get the hell away from me.

This idea that Dexter and Lila were meant to be together is a delusion that Lila made up. So... you've been fooled. The writers of the show did a good job. :D"

Like you say Dexter has his rules, does his homework and determines if they are Kill worthy or not. He choses the Bad ones and the ones that are beyond hope of rehabilitation or that have excaped the normal system of punishment.
Lila would kill if it suited her whim. Killig Doakes was not because he deserved to be killed, but because he would get in the way of her ultimate goal. Dexter...
Your posts are great Completely understands the problems I agree with you for the most part. Just do not know what you are coming downon others who are posting. We are all on here to do the same thing. To discuss and undstand Dexter et al.
Lila was not very attractive at all in my book. I think peopleonfuse a littel skin with being hot. If James Belushi went on here naked would he be hot?? I know bad analagy. But Because she was naked she was hot. That is the only way I can see it

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